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February 13 2010: Happy Chinese New Year!
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Happy Chinese New Year to anyone for whom it actually means something!
I managed to inadvertently aggravate my parents by forgetting that it was Chinese New Year’s Eve tonight – it’s more important to our family than the actual day itself. Having lived away from home for the past few months though, I forgot entirely about the New Year, and arranged early on to meet a friend from Sydney for dinner tonight as she’s only down for a few days. Bad move on my part. At least I’m back in the family home in the afternoon, to at least do my part in the worshipping of our family ancestors – the burning of paper money, etc. I try my best to do what’s expected of a good Chinese daughter.
And – tomorrow’s not only the start of the Year of the Tiger, but also Valentine’s Day! I haven’t planned or organised much as I was quite extravagant in planning an elaborate birthday for Dylan last week, so I’ve just done something quite small (which I can’t write about here yet, because apparently he’s starting to read this blog again).
I have told him though, that however commercial or cheesy he might find the holiday, I fully expect him to make an effort tomorrow. We might be used to just chilling at home with a few DVDs, but tomorrow needs to be something more. It needn’t be as cheesy as roses and chocolate – I just need him to show that he understands that while the holiday might not mean anything to him, it means something to me, so he should just suck it up and treat me like a princess. So there. =P
January 8 2010: QOTW: Social Media and Relationships
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So I’ve just read this article, and I’m curious. Most of the readers of this blog are as similarly active on the internet as myself – if not more. You might be a blogger, or a Tweeter, or you might visit a million forums. You might be an IRC regular, or just a frequent commenter on other blogs. Bottom line is, you spend a (relatively) large amount of your time on the Internet – probably more so than your average Joe or Jane.
I’ve got an online presence. I blog here. I Tweet near-daily. I use my LiveJournal occasionally for private entries. I’m relatively active in my local Melbourne LiveJournal community. I (try to) comment on other blogs regularly. I’m part of a forum (and have been very active in other forums). I’m very active on Facebook. I chat on MSN semi-regularly with online friends. I’ve met nearly two dozen ‘online’ people IRL, all over the world.
On the other hand, Dylan doesn’t understand why I blog, why I tweet, and how I can be so close to people online. It’s not to say that he’s a Luddite though, because he is incredibly tech-savvy. His interests online though, extend to browsing innovation and technology blogs, and research on various topics. For instance, we recently bought some pot plants for his place, but he spent about a week researching different varieties and their properties online before making a decision. We’re looking at purchasing snorkelling masks, and he’s already spent days researching different brands and styles.
We spend equal amounts of time online – but whereas my Internet usage is based around interaction with others, his is very much self-contained. This is actually probably reflective of our RL persons as well though – I’m more likely to spend time chatting to a friend, whereas he’s more likely to spend a day figuring out a way to rig up a way for the garden solar lights to light up his bungalow to save on electricity bills (true story – he’s still trying to figure it out).
Question of the Week: If you’re in a relationship, what’s your respective approaches to social media, and how does that work out for you? If you’re not in a relationship, what combination (one techy one not, two techies, or two non-techies, etc.) do you think would work best?
January 3 2010: Triumphant and Vindicated
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On New Year’s Eve, I sent out a generic celebratory text message to everyone in my phone (if you received it, you’re awesome enough to be programmed into my phone):
Cause I’ll probably be drunk and not so text-coherent closer to midnight, now is probably a good time to say: happy new year! Xxmanda
I received a message in return from a blast from the past: “If you came to mine, I’d fuck the shit outta you”. Charming kind of guy, a real dreamboat. Sure knows how to use a line to catch a quality woman. My reply was simple: “You’re so sweet, but I’m very happily in a relationship. :) Hope you got some anyway, xx.”
Is it wrong for me to feel triumphant and vindicated that after the years of teenage heartache he put me through, I finally got the chance to reject him completely? It’s almost as though the chance to reject him made all that pain worthwhile, because I finally got the upper hand. This feeling might mean that I’m a nasty and petty bitch, but guess who doesn’t care, because it feels fantastic?!
For the record, xx is my standard closer for most personal texts and emails – it’s not indicative of actual love/kisses for the person!