I’ll See You On The Other Side
June 10, 2010 | Filed under Life, Online
You know, I’ve kind of always known this, but it’s now fully confirmed – I’m actually incredibly boring and mundane. I managed to fool everyone for a while there, with opinions, hobbies, and a bubbly personality. I had things to say, I had thoughts to contribute, I had parties to go to, I had people to see and add to my network. I was interesting, intriguing and fun to be around. Now I:
- Leave the house for work when it’s still dark, and return when it’s still dark
- Spend nights and weekends studying for my Masters
- Spend any spare time I have exercising in a vain attempt to lose some weight gained through indolence
- Spend recent days in the family home helping out after my father had an operation
As a result, not only do I not do anything interesting, I don’t have anything interesting to say, or any interesting opinions (or, any opinions) on current issues. I don’t read newspapers, or even catch up with world events through online sources. I simply don’t have time – I could technically read the paper on the commute to work, but that’s when I do my studying. When I do have something to say, it’s about mortgages, bank loans, tips on frugality, careers, freelancing opportunities, new jobs I’ve seen advertised. I no longer talk about holiday destinations – how do you afford non-work-related travel when you’re frantically saving to pay off a house before you’re old and grey?
In short, my current lifestyle, goals, and ambitions are so far away from who I was a year ago, and who I was when I started blogging, that I feel light years apart from you, the readers who have been following me since 2005. Most of you are still in high school or university. We no longer have anything in common. Some of you have started careers, become mothers, settled down. We perhaps have more in common, but I still feel as though I’m separate to you – largely because no one ever seems to be as obsessed with career and asset growth as myself.
The number of comments I receive per post has been steadily dropping. It might be because I’m no longer commenting on your posts (see: feeling disconnected), it might be because I’m no longer involved in social activity online, it might be because I don’t post as often anymore. But I think really, it’s because I’m now in a separate sphere to the personal bloggers I’ve spent my entire online life with.
I’ll see you all on the other side – when you’ve all become as mid-twenties and boringly settled as me.
15 Responses to I’ll See You On The Other Side
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I still come to your blog, however, the things you post are as unrelated to me as a kettle of fish. :) I still love your writing but it isn’t necessary for me to comment anymore.
See you on the other side!
April on June 10, 2010 #
hahaha I’ve always been on the other side. I guess my know-it-all aunts put it best, “don’t study too hard and find a good man.” But each to their own. I guess I won’t be missing too much of all that when I’m a bit older.
marilyn on June 10, 2010 #
I feel like I’ve been on the other side for a while now – my life revolves around working, saving for a house, and planning mine and my boyfriend’s future. I haven’t been out in months, and I definitely have nothing interesting to blog about any more. I guess that’s why I haven’t.
Macca on June 10, 2010 #
I really disagree, Amanda. Mid-twenties + mortgage + career does not = boring. Almost everyone I have ever known became much more interesting and worth listening to once they grew up and got a job and some responsibilities.
Personally, I really enjoy your money orientated posts, especially the ones centred on frugality and managing your finances. They always have something useful for everyone, whether they are a University student or a mum with a mortgage.
Life is the mundane. We can all relate to mundane. As such, I will never understand why people decide to stop blogging because they live in the real world.
I hope you don’t become one of those people.
Tanya on June 10, 2010 #
Your life might be “boring” at the moment but it’ll head the other way again soon enough. As for blog posts, the ones (and sheer amount!) you’ve written in the past more than make up for any you might write now that you’re not happy with.
Your money-related posts are interesting too, heck, I think your blog’s as interesting as it always has been.
Charlie on June 10, 2010 #
I’ve been on the “other-side” for years. I have a career job as well as a part-time job, I work 6 days a week and go to school. I to feel that I am some what mundane and even separated from my real life friends, they always want me to party with them but I’m usually in bed by midnight – 7days a week.
You shouldn’t see this as being separated but evolving. Personally I have nothing in common with high school kids and undergrad students and to read a blog such as yours is refreshing. Also I love the financial posts – I find personal finance interesting.
Amy on June 11, 2010 #
It’s not so much an issue that you’re boring as that I’m too busy with similarly mundane things to comment. ;)
Jack on June 11, 2010 #
Even though I don’t always comment (usually run out of commenting/talking gas on anyone’s blog), I ALWAAAAYS read your blog entries. :3
Also, I refuse to believe you are boring. :O
Noellium on June 11, 2010 #
Like others in the comments, I don’t usually comment on your blog, but I always read your posts. And as Tanya said, I am also genuinely interested in your money posts. I’m always so amazed at the bargains you manage to find for yourself :)
Mandie on June 11, 2010 #
call me anytime you like (if ur feeling shitty). I know we don’t catch up often as we should, but that is life. I mean I pretty much do what you do, go to school, go home study, go to work, go to C’s house, study, sleep..
ur not the only one. xo
*hugs*
Mish on June 11, 2010 #
I read your blogs and I like following what’s going on. Generally speaking with social stuff on the net I’m a pretty passive consumer; I don’t update much despite the best of intentions, but follow what’s happening with others. I’m just surprised at times how little free time I have considering I haven’t found a job yet.
But mostly it sounds like you’re moving onto the next phase of life. That doesn’t mean you’re boring or you can’t say anything interesting despite what you may think. Just because you don’t always have an entirely informed opinion doesn’t mean you don’t have an opinion at all. You can always talk to people about things and find out.
You’re only boring if you start being boring. Even if you change, some parts of you don’t. I can’t really imagine you being a boring person, even if you’re busy worked off your feet at the moment. There will be time to do things I’m sure; and even if they are smaller and more local than international adventures they can still be interesting regardless.
Robert on June 12, 2010 #
I’ve been feeling the same way. My life is totally so blah right now and nobody really reads my posts so whatever. My secret, though, is that I started a new blog with no readers and all of the sudden I have a million things to say again (http://mania.lunsh.net/).
I always read your entries though – every single one, as I find them extremely interesting since I am a crazy career woman (what a crazy thought! I’m so old!) who is frugal. I don’t comment often because BUSY.
Anyway, you are definitely not boring.
Becky on June 12, 2010 #
I was in a rut when my blogging a while back. So I quit that blog and started over, involving myself in a new blogging circle that I could relate with – 20 something bloggers who are in college, graduated and have jobs, or are navigating through their quarter-life crisis.
I’ve followed your blog for a very long time. I definitely think your interesting enough to keep up with even though some entries I may not specifically be able to relate to.
Kiera on June 12, 2010 #
(BF’s phone had a joke on it that said ‘respond to every single statement with ‘That’s what you think’)
So. That’s what YOU think :D
My excuse for lack of comments is my own lack of activity online. But I’ll have you know I still keep up with ‘ol Jing Wen cause I find you amazing and an inspiration. The things you discuss might not necessarily apply to me RIGHT NOW, but fast forward a few years and they will. I love reading what direction your life is taking, or am I just vicariously (future) living through you? Let’s not answer that…
Might I add, you’re working yourself to death girl!
J on June 12, 2010 #
I don’t think you’re boring! We might not have much in common, but I still enjoy reading your blog :)
Manda on June 14, 2010 #