February 2 2010: Social Butterfly: Never Say No
Along with my semi-resolution to not purchase any item of black clothing this year in an attempt to act my age, I have also decided that I’m not going to say no to any invitations this year unless I have a genuine and logical reason. It’s part of the attempt to stop being the social hermit that I was last year, and to get out, have fun, and meet new people. I will willingly admit that as we were in a new relationship, Dylan and I got entirely too caught up in each other last year and declined all invitations in order to stay snuggling in bed together – which really, isn’t at all socially healthy. We need to be our own people and have our own interests too.
Of course, this resolution does pose a problem when I’m Facebook-invited to a gig that someone‘s band is playing – something that really, I have no interest in whatsoever because it’s entirely not my scene. Seeing a bunch of boring and mundane people from high school that I have nothing in common with isn’t high on my to-do list. Yet, I can’t exactly say no because of this stupid resolution and I have no other real excuse to give.
So, my solution is to hold my own event so I have an excuse to say thanks, but no thanks. I’ve decided – zombie movie marathon on Friday night anyone? Anyone?
13 Responses to “Social Butterfly: Never Say No”
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Better idea: disregard Facebook invites. You know they’re insincere anyway. ;)
Man. You’re a better young person than I am. I am more than content to go to sleep early on a Friday night. (Okay, sometimes I’m not that content, but, well, I have to be, since I don’t get many invitations anyway…)
Stephanie on February 2 2010 #
seen that movie “yes man”? it turned out good for him in the end…
adam on February 2 2010 #
Lol, I think sticking to that resolution means you’ll be planning a lot of your own events as excuses ;)
Kaylee on February 2 2010 #
You could just automatically disavow any and all Facebook invites as pertains to your resolution, although I personally think resolutions are a load of crap, and there’s no better time to turn over a new leaf than the present. :P
Also, if I were not 5000 kilometres away I would take you up on that marathon in a second. Unfortunately, I am. :p However if I’m accepted by the Navy I’ll be moving to the training camp in Victoria, which is a hell of a lot closer. :>
Jordie on February 2 2010 #
I agree that it’s good to accept all invitations. I’ve sometimes been invited to something, not wanted to go, gone anyway, enjoyed myself, and been glad that I went!
But sadly, I’m not free this Friday (nor next Friday) :( Check your Facebook PMs.
Adam on February 2 2010 #
I disregard all mass-Facebook invites. =P
I’m the queen of finding somewhat logical excuses not to spend time with people. Especially when the person who’s inviting me to their “awesome!” birthday party is someone that I a) don’t like and I b) would rather not watch a slutfest of a birthday party occur… ;)
Michelle on February 2 2010 #
I agree with everyone else, facebook invites should be disregarded since they send them to everyone and their mother.
Noemi on February 3 2010 #
It’s interesting that you should post this, because I’m going through something remarkably similar myself.
My boyfriend and I made our relationship official last year, and we were utterly absorbed in each other, to the point where I was rarely at my own apt, and we barely went out. Even though I was aware of how unhealthy that was, it just… happened. I ended up moving in with him, and while I’ve always been more of a homely type person, sharing my living space almost 24/7 with him was making me irritable and insane.
It also didn’t help that my best friend moved to the capital, and my other friends were also too caught up in their relationships. I definitely needed novelty in my life, but I just found it so hard — I didn’t know where to start!
Aaaaaaaaanyway… I’m definitely making up for lost time, so to speak. I decided to up my courseload at the uni, and have signed up for a couple of electives as well. I’m putting more effort towards my friendships, though I’m definitely in need of more friends who are willing to go out! (We’re mostly a laid back bunch, but I miss the occasional crazy party night!)
It’s funny — I was always so “sure” that I wouldn’t let something like that happen to me once I was in a relationship, but it’s almost inevitable. But, as long as it’s a stage in life and not a constant, then all’s good!
P.S. I would definitely hang out with you! Let’s meet up! xP
Robmarie on February 3 2010 #
Bigger question: Why are you still facebook friends with that tool?
New resolution: same as your old one, but with the caveat that invites from people not worth your time don’t count.
Rebekah on February 3 2010 #
Not about this post at all, but –
OMG YOUR LAYOUT IS SO RIDICULOUSLY BRIGHT ON MY COMPUTER.
Stephanie on February 5 2010 #
I think saying no to invitations is very well possible if it’s not your thing to go to. Like the music not being your scene or the people you HAVE to hang out with that night is not your crowd. I think those are reasons to not go. After all going out should be fun and you should feel comfortable in the crowd your in that night. Of course you have these mandatory things (generally work related or family related) that you might not want to go to but those are ‘suck-it-up-and-go’ kind of events.
Other than that; if you know you’re not going to have fun, why put yourself through it?
Chans on February 6 2010 #
Aww love! I wasn’t free!
It’s been so insane at work this is the first I’ve read your blog all week! How sad is that. :(
nadine on February 7 2010 #
Not wanting to see all the boring, annoying people you knew in high school sounds like a good enough reason to me.
Arielle on February 9 2010 #