Comments on: Things Are Promising

By: Dane

Dane — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 18:54:11 +0000

Hm… it has been four months with Royce already and my parents are very back and forth with their feelings towards him. One minute they seem cool with him, the next my mother is shouting at me for seeing him too much (one or two out of seven days, OMG, unacceptable, too much!).

Your parents are just like my parents; let’s put them in a room together and they’ll be best friends and leave us alone!

So it’ll probably take a long time for them to accept him; I know it’s going to take a long time for my parents, but hey, as long as Dylan’s willing to stick around for you then it just proves your parents wrong.

By: Felisa

Felisa — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 05:50:14 +0000

I’m not just saying this to comfort you but it took quite awhile for my parents to warm up to my sister’s boyfriend too. And from all I’ve read from your blog, I’m under the impression that my parents and your parents must exchange parenting advice online or something like that because I can identify with everything you say only a tad too well… But he (sister’s bf) insisted on hanging out here at home a lot and now I think my mom loves him more than she loves me. If he’s around enough and they notice that he does care about you, I’m sure they’ll warm up eventually… I’m not saying it will be any time soon but it WILL happen.

By: marilyn

marilyn — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 20:41:21 +0000

My parents would probably be civil to keep face. But then force me to break up with him. If it doesn’t work = disowned.

Anyway, things DO seem promising. I hope they soften up to him soon. Maybe after they realize this is serious and he’s a responsible person?

By: Noellium

Noellium — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 19:46:17 +0000

Having never been in your situation before, I don’t have any stories to share. But here’s hoping they’ll like him. Soon. D:

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 17:05:29 +0000

Dude, you’re 23. Tell them they’re disrespecting a person you love and care about. Tell them they need to get over it because YOU LOVE HIM and that’s what matters in this equation, not that they’re pissed you’re dating someone who is white. You do everything else a good chinese girl is supposed to do — clean, work, run errands, take care of them and family. Seriously, tell them to suck it the fuck up.

But before you do that, make sure you’ve checked out some apartments you really like :P

By: Mar

Mar — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 16:56:55 +0000

My boyfriend’s parents were like this towards me for a long time. They also are fairly script. It took some time, I was just quiet and minded my own business as politely as I could. they eventually worked things out with Kristian, who explained it wasn’t as awful as they seemed to think. It took some time, but now they’re pretty welcoming.

By: Lucy

Lucy — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 13:15:39 +0000

My mother was like that towards my then boyfriend. I guess she thought that if she acted like that, he would leave me because he couldn’t stand my mother. I confronted her about it one day and had a very long and truthful conversation about it. I let her know that we were both very serious about each other and she needed to stop acting the way she was acting. I told her if her behavior didn’t continue, then he would never come over anymore, which meant that I would be over at his house all the time. I knew she wouldn’t like that. It kinda worked because she stopped snubbing him and even tried having conversations with him. My husband still doesn’t like her, but oh well. Point is she accepted him. She had no choice lol.

I hope things work out for the best. I’m sure they will. :-)

By: Emsz

Emsz — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 13:03:27 +0000

I don’t know about your parents, but if my parents did something like that to my friends/boyfriend, I would certainly confront them.. But then again, they aren’t as strict as yours, and not very likely to kick me out of the house.