Comments on: QOTW: Achieving An Identity

By: Shen-Shen

Shen-Shen — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 04:39:49 +0000

I know exactly who I am, and I have a few ideas about what I want out of life… So I still haven’t found my place in the world yet!

By: Chantelle

Chantelle — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 14:07:27 +0000

I think I have a very strong sense of personal identity, but to me knowing who I am isn’t that important. It’s the bare minimum. I want to achieve certain things. If I don’t (and if I don’t, at least, work hard), I may know who I am… but then, it’s kind of like “Yeah, I know who I am, but what’s the point? I’m failing at life. Why am I even existing?”

By: Marieke

Marieke — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 07:26:29 +0000

I believe that we continue to grow as a person, from the day we are born till the day that we die. It might sound really corny, but I don’t feel that there’s one point where you can say THIS is me.
We will continue to grow and change, inspired/stimulated/put down by things that happen to us and around us, even our personality changes over time…

Anyhow, I do think that at this point I am exactly who I feel I ought to be and I suppose you can count that as an identity.

Thanks for this post, it’s given me something to think about! :)

By: Yara

Yara — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 05:36:18 +0000

I don’t think that I know who am fully as a person yet. I’m not sure if I’m really trying to ‘find’ my place in the world, as opposed to taking life day by day and seeing what happens. I’m still young and haven’t really experienced many things yet, so I really can’t form a true identity. Anyways, I don’t really want to overwhelm myself with soul searching just yet. :P

By: marilyn

marilyn — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 01:10:02 +0000

ugh, I haven’t found my place in any world and I constantly feel lost at life. I’ve never felt smart either. Even when I did well academically as a kid, even when I was a valedictorian and even now when my grades (so far) have never been better and I think it’s because I don’t know what my purpose is. What good is having high numbers on your transcript if you don’t know what to do with it? I want, desperately, to be able to direct all this effort, to dedicate all myself to something meaningful – to me at least – but I honestly have no clue.

By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 23:19:45 +0000

I think, as an identity, your life will change in a number of ways and that’ll you adapt as it happens? So perhaps the idea is a flawed concept because everybody is more of a social chameleon depending on their environment. Regardless of that, I do think “getting the grades, good job” etcetera is still part of forging your own identity because it represents (to some extent) the life choices that you’ve made.

I’m secure in who I am, and I’m indefinably “me” but that doesn’t mean that this identity won’t develop and/or grow over time. :P

By: Kycoo

Kycoo — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 21:26:30 +0000

I haven’t gotten there yet, but I know I will. ;)

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 20:44:10 +0000

I’ve read that the older you get, the more “yourself ” that you become.

I feel like I’m my own person, but I imagine my sense of self will continue to grow.

By: Mari

Mari — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 17:05:42 +0000

I feel my personality – or identity if you will – is pretty fuzzy around the edges. I’m still way too insecure to find my proper place in the world, and define myself very much by what I can do, rather than who I am. It can be frustrating.

By: Aisling

Aisling — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 13:29:15 +0000

I was put in similar situations in elementary. I spent hardly any time in class, because I was always put into special groups. In grade two, my reading level was that of a ninth grader, so I obviously didn’t want to read “See Spot Run.”

I think that I have a nice base for my identity going, but that it sometimes overwhelms me so much that it throws me a bit off course in regards to building it up from the foundation. I have Borderline Personality (that term is so outdated though :P ), which, is “cured,” by figuring out how the way my mind works, and essentially.. cutting it off at the pass before I become destructive. So, really, overcoming that is a big obstacle between finding my true identity– but I think I’m on the right track!