August 19 2008: QOTW: Buffy’s Relationships Are My Own
Filed under Media & Men & Q.O.T.W.
In keeping with yesterday’s vampiric theme, some fan rambling regarding Buffy Summers, vampire slayer extraordinaire. Her love life actually reflects my love life, and probably the love lives of many women out there. Yes, this is despite the fact that she dated vampires. I’m talking in general terms, mmkay?
- Random Flirtage (Scott, etc.): The randoms here and there in high/middle school that you have flirtations with. Nothing’s ever going to come of it, but they’re a nice ego boost while they last.
- Angel: The first true love. Eminently ‘unsuitable’ in other people’s eyes for some reason or another, whether it’s because they’re too old, too vampiric, too much of a bad influence, whatever. Yet, despite other people’s disapproval, you’re hopelessly in love with them. This love sticks with you forever, no matter how many others you find yourself with in the course of your life. You’ll never forget them.
- Parker: The rebound. Whether it’s a one night stand, or a slightly longer relationship. You don’t actually like them as a person. You’re in it for one reason only - they act as a balm for your injured emotions after the painful breakfup with the first true love.
- Riley: The all-around nice person, who everyone likes. When it comes down to it, you don’t actually like them - you try to convince yourself that you do, but really, they’re just good for filling in the space of “eminently appropriate partner” who’s the complete antithesis to your first true love. You’re with them because you think their niceness will be a nice change from the drama of your previous relationships, but inevitably, you’ll just get bored and personally sabotage the relationship.
- Spike: The adult relationship. It’s about passion, love, and explosive arguments with equally explosive make-ups. The emotions run so deep that you would do anything for the other person…even sacrifice yourself for them.
Have a think about it. It’s a little bit like a horoscope in that this theory could potentially be applicable to anyone, but it definitely works.
Question of the Week: Is this theory applicable to yourself? If not, is there some other media depiction of relationships that you can relate to?
I’ve done for my sister’s relationships using Veronica Mars characters.
It has not turned out as predicted.
Jennifer on August 19 2008 #
Nice comparision, unfortunately it’s been too long since I had a relationship to compare this to myself.
The Spike relationship is IMO a lot more complex. It started out a one-sided love, which the other person (Buffy) just used to make themselves feel better. Spike had to change A LOT before Buffy eventually showed some deeper emotions for him too.
adastra on August 19 2008 #
My relationship timeline goes a bit like like: waste of time, waste of time, waste of time, waste of time, waste of time, waste of time, waste of time, first true love who turns out to be a waste of time, rebound… THE ONE!
I can’t think of any characters who had a string of time wasters before their first true love…
Do you know of any?
Reply: Haha, not off the top of my head.
Nellie on August 19 2008 #
I don’t remember half the characters…I think my relationships could be related to Lost love triangle between Sawyer and Jack…however I’m not that stupid as Kate is!
Regine on August 19 2008 #
So dear Amanda, from number 1-5, which one are you on? XD
Reply: Why, it would be cheating if I told. :P
Crystal on August 19 2008 #
Lonely…set me up with a rich (plus) good looking guy please :)
monkee on August 19 2008 #
For me, Stage 2 ended the day before yesterday (literally). But it’s all right! I’ve spent today brainstorming Stage 3s. I’ve thought of four or five already. Oh dear …
Reply: Oh my god, it’s Nick. How did you find me?
Nick on August 19 2008 #
Hmm, can’t say I could answer that, I think I have only had No 1 at a constant so far…
Chris on August 19 2008 #
Batman’s Rogues Gallery…
Harley Quinn almost totally reminds me of myself. She’s irritating and in love with a psycho.
And then Talia Al-Ghul. Her name’s similar to my name, just change the T to an R and the L to and F, she’s got Arab blood in her from her father, Batman loves her, etc.
Although, these are not based on any real relationships, but just, you know… yeah okay. Sorry about that.
Rafia on August 20 2008 #
I’ve been through 2 and 3… is it normal to be back at #1?
Nathan on August 20 2008 #
In an attempt to liken myself to Veronica Mars, I watched Seasons 1 through 3 back again to see if her relationship timeline correlated. Result: miserable failure.
I’ve been through 2, 3 and 4 (4 being most recent). And now I’m back at 1.
You should hook me up or something. :P
Xuan on August 20 2008 #
“How did you find me?”
Uh, you told me the address.
Reply: …was I intoxicated?
Nick on August 20 2008 #
Doesnt match at all. Sure, Josh was the first and horribly unsuitable but Michael doesnt fit any of the other three. Possibly a combination: nice, sweet, suitable AND fiery and passionate (in the love, not the arguments). :-D
Skye on August 20 2008 #
” …was I intoxicated?” Probably. But it’s not a secret blog?!? I mean I’ve heard you talk about blogging several times.
Nick on August 20 2008 #
I’m surprised that Sex and the City hasn’t been mentioned here!
I don’t know if I can relate to all her relationships, but Carrie’s one with Big is eerily on the dot when it comes to one of my relationships. Some of her “things” with other guys have been similar to some of my not-quite-relationships, too.
On a somewhat unrelated note … I miss Buffy on TV! :(
Chanel on August 21 2008 #