A Boy In The House
July 20, 2008 | Filed under Asian-ness, Family & Friends, Relationships/Men
I’ve had Michael staying with me for the past couple of days. Yes, a boy in the Chan family home. I’m surprised my parents didn’t have an apoplectic fit as well.
Their acceptance of him staying with us for the few days he was in Melbourne, was based largely on the fact that my aunt had met him when we were on our little Sydney jaunt earlier this year, and had reported back to my parents that he was a nice, respectable, Chinese boy. My parents had promptly responded to this report with, “You idiot girl, why did you give up a nice Chinese boy and introduce him to your cousin, rather than keeping him for yourself?”, but well, let’s just say that there’s things they still don’t know about.
Anyway, the reports of him as a nice respectable Chinese boy obviously had some impact on them, as once I told them he was coming to visit they:
- Moved the furniture around in my brother’s bedroom so that it would be more comfortable for his stay. (He slept in my brother’s room.)
- Cooked up a storm.
- Bought a new bathmat.
- Did a huge spring clean of the house
I watched their frenetic activity around the house with some amusement, because this is Michael visiting. It’s not the Queen. But then this amusement turned into a certain kind of sadness, because I know that if it had been someone else staying with us, they would have done the exact opposite and done their best to make him feel uncomfortable in our home, not comfortable. The saddest thing would be that this incivility would be based on the fact that he’s not a “nice respectable Chinese boy”, and that it’s actually entirely unwarranted when based on his character.
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OMFG! STOP THE PRESSES! :D
Jordie on July 20, 2008 #
Wish my parents would invest in a new bathmat when someone nice came to stay :D
Ikea bed can be found here, but with a slightly dearer price: http://www.ikea.com/au/en/catalog/products/S49842778
Alexandra on July 20, 2008 #
Well at least your parents allowed a boy in the house :) that’s a first step….
btw I don’t know if those two comments are spam, I guess they could be, although I checked both websites on google and they are safe according to Mcafee. They both have to do with orchids and photography so I guess I’m going to leave them for now. Since they’re supposed to be safe sites and all..
Chans on July 20, 2008 #
Aww Amanda.*e-hug*
Unless I’m rry close to a certain guy and my parents know his family then it’s alright for him to stay at home. :)
Juice on July 21, 2008 #
I know what you mean! My parents go out of their way to embarrass us if the guy is white or something like that. =/ We’ve never had a Filipino boy over ever but I’m sure they would react a lot better.
After awhile though, they get used to our non-Filipino dates and they become nicer to them. Maybe that’s what it will be like with your parents :)
Felisa on July 21, 2008 #
Oh I feel your pain! At least your parents are open to a nice, respectable Chinese boy. I fully expect my parents’ mentality of “too young to date” will leave me single for a long, long time. Hopefully your parents will warm up to the idea of non-Chinese boys :)
marilyn on July 21, 2008 #
Haha, agreed with Chans on this one: at least your parents are letting a boy stay in your house. *scandalous gasp!* My parents were all gung-ho about preventing that sort of stuff.
Arwen on July 21, 2008 #