RSVP: A Follow Up
May 18, 2008 | Filed under Online, Relationships/Men
Over a month ago, I joined an Australian dating site. My first account of my experiences there (and the reasons for joining in the first place!) were laid out in this entry, so in order to better understand the rest of this particular entry, it may be worth reading that one first.
Within two weeks of having my profile up on the site, I was so overwhelmed with contacts, that I actually had to take my profile offline. I’m not simply talking myself up – I quite literally, could not keep up with demand, and needed to stem the flow of new contacts in order to respond to those which had the most promise.
However, the calibre of people I actually met on RSVP was, on the whole, disappointing. Out of the 150+ men (and two women) who ended up contacting me for sexy time within the two week period that I was active, a large proportion (98%) were simply unsuitable when matched up against the requirements that I detailed in this entry.
- 50% of contacts failed my most stringent requirement – the ability to spell and write grammatically-correct English.
- 25% of contacts were outside my target age range. I’m not age-ist, but honestly? I have nothing in common with those 35+.
- 15% of contacts were boring, or lacked that special ‘X-factor’. I have a short attention, so if they didn’t capture my attention in either their profile or subsequent emails (e.g. they didn’t have a personality that shone through), they were off the list.
- 5% of contacts were aesthetically unattractive, to the point of hideousness. I’m shallow, and I want to be able to actually look at the person in question.
- 3% of contacts didn’t make the effort to find me through other means. It’s impossible to truly ‘contact’ anyone on the dating site unless you pay for email privileges, so if they didn’t make the effort to Google my username, and through that, find this blog and thus, my MSN contact details and/or email, they really weren’t worth the trouble.
The remaining 2% who did get through my screening process? It’s been a mixed bag. Some I’ll probably have quite cordial conversations with for a few months, before it eventually tapers off. One (hi Michael!) I actually set up on a date with my female cousin in Sydney. One particular male, I’ve been seeing for a month and a half, so it’s not all negatives.
Key to his success? He doesn’t treat me as only a sexual object. There’s no question that I love sex. I love thinking about it, talking about it, doing it. But as I think this blog should show, that’s not all I am. I’m interested in politics, world affairs, social issues, fiscal matters, the fashion world, the entertainment industry. Little absurdities of human nature tickle my fancy, as does lolcats.
That’s why he got through – because though there’s no doubt that there’s great sexual energy between us, to the point of not being able to keep clothes on for longer than an hour at a time, there’s also a great meshing of thinking, and a recognition of myself as an entity that’s not completely dependent on bodily communication. And, he sent me lolcats. The lolcats might have been the clincher.
10 Responses to RSVP: A Follow Up
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So…. lolcats = love? Interesting. May need to try that. :P
I’m so happy for you!!
Aisling on May 18, 2008 #
Oh, that’s so… science-like *giggles* Good luck then with the rest! ;)
Vera on May 19, 2008 #
A man who sends you lolcats? Keeper!
Sounds like you’re having fun. Best of luck with your new guy. :)
Chanel on May 19, 2008 #
Good luck! :)
Lolcats is awesome!
Regina on May 19, 2008 #
Altogether now! 1, 2, 3 – awwwwwwwwwww.
Agreed with Aisling; am very happy for thee, Manda. Best of luck with the dude. :)
Xuan on May 19, 2008 #
I have to admit I’m jealous. I mean, sending you lolcats and being sexually attractive at the same time? That’s a gem, my friend.
Sarai on May 19, 2008 #
Ahah that’s very epic. xD It’s amazing on how you can meet people over the internet.
Anyways, good luck and have with your new guy, and grats!
Beverts on May 19, 2008 #
I love how you did the math to come up with only 2% who were actually okay :P
I’m glad you actually found a guy who you seem to really like!
Felisa on May 19, 2008 #
lolcats?! how cute.
marilyn on May 19, 2008 #
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