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February 9 2008: Kidney Stones and Selfishness

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My dad has kidney stones again.

While he’s not in hospital, he is on a course of strong pain medication, prescribed by our family doctor. I’d be lying if I said that I wasn’t worried – the fact that they’ve recurred doesn’t bode well for the future as it suggests that they may continue to recur for the rest of his natural life. In any case, I’m taking him to see a specialist on Wednesday (the earliest appointment I could get)…fingers crossed.

I have to admit that I’m selfish however – I worry about what’s going to happen when I leave for New Zealand now. With myself and my cousins overseas, there’s no one left in our immediate family with the necessary English skills who could drop everything at a moment’s notice to drive my father to the hospital if the need arises. I contemplated cancelling my trip, but to my shame, I gave that idea up. In short, it appears that travelling matters more to me than my father’s welfare.

True, I could brief my aunt and uncle, as well as all family friends to be ready to help my father in the ten days that I’m away…but it’s not quite the same thing as being here myself is it? I’m ashamed of myself.

In other news, as if my self-confidence and self-esteem weren’t high enough (though really, could it ever be?), it’s just increased tenfold. I have…fans? Thanks Nellie!

3 Responses to “Kidney Stones and Selfishness”

  1. I wish your father a speedy recovery; and I also hope whilst you’re in NZ that you don’t feel guilty for leaving. Make sure you enjoy yourself!

    Amber on February 11 2008 #

  2. I hope your dad gets well soon and that nothing bad happens while you’re gone. :) And like what Amber said, I hope you don’t let guilt overcome you and have fun while in New Zealand. ^_^

    Noellium on February 12 2008 #

  3. [...] for a “Right Ureteric Stone Extraction” procedure – it’s his kidney stone problem again. I’ve taken the day off work to be with him – to drive him to and from hospital, to wait [...]

    Jingwen » Blog Archive » Back In Hospital on March 24 2008 #

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