Comments on: Time Demands

By: Mish

Mish — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 13:53:19 +0000

I agree with Amanda… a relationship should compliment your life. Not add on top of what you already have.

It shouldn’t be a sacrifice. If you think about you relationship that way, it’s ultimately doomed. It’s choice.

By: Jamie

Jamie — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 03:09:56 +0000

I agree with Jem. Relationships are about sacrifice. You can’t do whatever you want and only worry about you and then not expect your S.O. to not get upset when you have no time for them. The fact is, making sacrifices shouldn’t be a problem. I always hate it when I hear people are fighting over things like not spending time together when they clearly can.

I get bitter because I’d give anything to spend even 5 minutes with my husband, but I can’t. There are more important things in life than being able to participate in a hobby that you love to do or doing what you want to do.

By: Shari

Shari — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 02:38:55 +0000

I think it’s a balance of both sacrificing for your significant other and doing your own thing.

I’d hate to say anything cliched, but it depends on the situation, it depends on the other person, and it really depends on how you handle both the person & the situation. ;)

By: Belinda

Belinda — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 00:21:00 +0000

It’s about what feels right for the individuals, not what others expect relationships to be like.

I agree with that so much, but in the opposite kind of way. I’ve had “friends” who’ve made me feel so bad about the relationship I’ve had with Tim because I spend TOO much time with him. I felt guilty for hanging out with him as much as I did, because back then, in comparison to my friends who only met up with their significant other only a couple of times a week. It was all like “why are you spending so much time with him? Why aren’t you doing other things?” when in reality there wasn’t anything else I’d rather do.

But in the end I learnt, to hell with that. Those people are more comfortable with their scheduling and I’m comfortable with mine. Relationships are so different, no one should EXPECT to behave a certain way in them.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 22:41:26 +0000

The pics of the penis car will brighten my day :)

I totally agree with the principles of what you said, however I feel it is impossible to truly not sacrifice or have another sacrifice, as there’s always going to be a time when you want the other to do something that they’re not really going to want to do, but they do anyway, you know?

By: Jem

Jem — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 20:28:19 +0000

On the contrary, relationships are ALL about sacrifice. Five years of being in a relationship with a multitude of ups and downs has taught me that. If you feel resentful for making sacrifices then you are not in a relationship that is right for you.

By: Li

Li — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 14:24:41 +0000

Thank you for this! Not only am I going to bookmark this entry, I think I’ll print it off and force my mother to read it!

And I can’t wait for the picture of the penis car! ;) I *lol*ed when I read about that!