Betrayal
February 5, 2007 | Filed under Relationships/Men
I feel somewhat like a traitor.
A good friend came to visit me at work today to help break the monotony of my working day. She was gushing about her new semi-relationship which has yet to be truly confirmed by the other party.
“I really like him!” she says. “Only…” she falters. “When he came to pick me up on Saturday night, he didn’t come to the door. He called me from his car and told me he was outside.”
“Yeah he does that,” I reply. “You have to tell him to come in and do the proper gentlemanly thing“.
“How do you know?!”
“Oh, he came to pick me up once.”
She looked so shocked, her countenance showing just a tinge of betrayal. I immediately felt guilty.
“Men these days!” I guffaw, trying to break the mood. “P did exactly the same thing on our first date and I had to tell him to come in and meet my parents properly.”
I mean, I really shouldn’t be feeling like a traitor because he had come to pick me up about two years ago, and we were never in a relationship or even in a hint of a relationship. We simply bicker too much for there to have been any chance. Even so…I feel as though I should have told her before she started getting all giddy over their budding relationship so that it wouldn’t have been a shock now.
Now that I think about it…why don’t men these days voluntarily come to pick you up the traditional way? Are they unwilling to be subjected to parental scrutiny? Have they simply lost touch with the ancient art of courting? Must we retrain them to treat us with true knightly chivalry?
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Short answer: Yes. Men will not do anything unless we tell them to.
Tracey on February 5, 2007 #
I don’t think you have to feel guilty about having him pick you up once two years ago while you weren’t even having a relationship or anything that might turn into one.
Did you know your friend already at that time or did you meet her later on? If you already knew her then; you didn’t feel it was important enough to tell her about it at that time, so obviously it wasn’t a big deal. And if you didn’t know her back then; I don’t tell all my new friends about the things I did in the past.
Chans on February 5, 2007 #
Men are getting less romantic these days and they really think too highly of themselves. They just… can’t be bothered you know? It seems as though the only time that men treat you like a princess is when they want to bed you. At least, most of them.
Melle on February 5, 2007 #
I’m with Tracey on this. You have to tell them what to do. They will never just “get it” unless their mothers were wonderful women who taught them that girls are gems to treasure and respect :-P
Kat on February 5, 2007 #
Agreed with Kat. Look for a Mama’s boy, and you’ll be sure she programmed him well. XD
… Or if you act like a lady yourself, you could probe the gentleman out of him. Some men will do anything to win the girl if he really likes her. :P
Aravis on February 5, 2007 #
I’ve never had a man to know if that happens or not. :P
Amber on February 6, 2007 #
*drives away laughing*
Doran on February 6, 2007 #
Lulz, who said that the boy has to court the girl? Why can’t it be the other way around?
Jordie on February 9, 2007 #